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A lot of marriages start having problems and struggles after having the first child.
The woman gives the new baby so much attention and, in the process, she tends to lose herself and starts to forget who she was.
Her life, her dreams, and her goals are all pushed aside to create space for this new baby.
And sadly she puts her marriage on auto-pilot
This is where you start doing only the bare minimum in your marriage, like you guys stop doing dates based on the excuse that you have a new baby, and most things that used to bring you and your husband close are hardly done anymore.
So then how do you expect your marriage to grow and become better if it’s not getting nurtured by either of you?
I know it’s not your fault, because new motherhood is hard, trying to figure out how it all works takes time and needs some patience.
And
As much as it’s a good thing to direct all the focus towards the baby, if there isn’t any balance in your everyday life then you’ll end up feeling like a slave in your marriage and your life.
So what can you do?
Go back to your old goals and dreams.
What did you always want to do or have? For you as an individual? Why haven’t you achieved those things and what can you do now to achieve them.
What type of marriage did you want you and your husband to have? And why don’t you have it now?
What needs to be done to create that fun marriage? What can you let go of? And what can you start doing to restore and create your dream marriage so that you’ll feel less stressed?
What type of family did you want to have?
Now you have kids, is that where you’re headed? And if not what behaviour can you correct to bring the that stable family together?
Having kids should not be the reason why you neglect your dreams, goals, and leave your marriage to run itself…
You can have it all, just like you see men having it all, you just need to have the right guidance on where to start and I can help you with that.
⚡️PS: I’m a life coach who helps women stop feeling frustrated and unhappy in their marriage.
I do this via my one on one coaching program called
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